Children in some cultures are often taught that if they try hard they can reach anything they want. In my opinion, this message in terms of advantages will help children increase their confidence and gain the ability to overcome failure, but it can create high pressure for them and cause them to change their assessment standards.
Start on the beneficial side, encouraging children to always try their best to achieve what they want will help them become more confident in themselves. When children see that their efforts bring worthy results, they will be more confident in their own abilities that they can do anything, this will promote comprehensive personal development in the future. For example, when continuous efforts in studying help students achieve high scores on the test, they will become more and more confident in studying, thereby trying to study well so that they can have a stable life and career in the future. In addition, it also helps children build skills to overcome failure. We all know that there are many difficulties in life and failure is a common occurrence. To be successful, children will learn to face failure and not give up easily, which helps build perseverance when faced with difficulties. For instance, a young athlete after losing a competition will not feel discouraged but will see it as an opportunity to learn from experience and practice better for the next competition.
Besides, forcing children to try too hard to succeed can put them under tremendous pressure. When children are taught that if they just try hard they will succeed, they may feel pressured to always achieve high results. This can greatly affect their health when overworked. For example, to achieve high scores in the exam, students will be under great pressure and have to study day and night and this will make them always tired and sleep deprived, thereby reducing their health. Not only that, this also unintentionally causes children to become too rigid in evaluating their level of success. When the standards they set for themselves are not as expected, they will feel ashamed and disappointed, leading to negative behaviors. For instance, A young athlete participating in a soccer competition is encouraged that if he just tries his best, he will win. However, when he did not score in some matches, he began to judge himself as a bottom-class player, which in turn led to him becoming lazier and lazier in training and becoming more and more incompetent.
In conclusion, advising children to try their best to achieve what they want is very helpful as they gain confidence and are not discouraged when they fail, but at the same time it also makes them suffer a lot of pressure and feel bad when their expectations for themselves are too high.