The relation between parents and children varies from time to time and place to place. But the general trend seems to be that children are less likely to obey blindly. This has caused much uneasiness on the part of parents and teachers. However strict control by adults hinders children’s preparation for the later life. There are advantages and disadvantages of these viewpoints
In the adult’s opinion, children have to obey their elders. Raised and taken care by their parents, children should do as they are told to show their gratitude and respect for the elders. This is a tradition in many cultures. Besides, the elders always want the best for their children. No parents would intentionally harm their children and thus there is no point in objecting to their biding. More importantly. Youngsters cannot make informed decisions on their own. Being young and inexperienced, they are prone to indiscretion. On many occasions, they need guidance and advice from their parents and teachers.
On the other hand, too much control is detrimental to children’s future development. Sooner or later, children need to make decisions on their own. If they have been taught to obey orders since they could remember, they gradually lose the ability and desire to form their own opinion. Such children would never be given positions with responsibilities because they are accustomed to following rather than giving instructions. Besides, only a totalitarian society will demand total obedience. It is contrary to democratic principles which take account of all people’s opinions and interests. Tyrannical parents are in danger of starting a vicious cycle: when their children become parents themselves, they also become tyrants.
In conclusion, it is not easy to get along with one’s parents or children. It is unwise to be overprotective or overindulging. As with most things, moderation seems the best policy. Any high-handed approach is likely to breed another generation of tyrannical parents.
The relation between
parents
and
children
varies from time to time and place to place.
But
the general trend seems to be that
children
are less likely to obey
blindly
. This has caused much uneasiness on the part of
parents
and teachers.
However
strict control by adults hinders
children’s
preparation for the later life. There are advantages and disadvantages of these
viewpoints
In the adult’s opinion,
children
have to
obey their elders. Raised and taken care by their
parents
,
children
should do as they are
told
to
show
their gratitude and respect for the elders. This is a tradition in
many
cultures.
Besides
, the elders always want the best for their
children
. No
parents
would
intentionally
harm their
children
and
thus
there is no point in objecting to their biding. More
importantly
. Youngsters cannot
make
informed decisions on their
own
. Being young and inexperienced, they are prone to indiscretion. On
many
occasions, they need guidance and advice from their
parents
and teachers.
On the other hand
, too much control is detrimental to
children’s
future development. Sooner or later,
children
need to
make
decisions on their
own
. If they have
been taught
to obey orders since they could remember, they
gradually
lose the ability and desire to form their
own
opinion. Such
children
would never be
given
positions with responsibilities
because
they
are accustomed
to following
rather
than giving instructions.
Besides
,
only
a totalitarian society will demand total obedience. It is contrary to democratic principles which take account of all
people
’s opinions and interests. Tyrannical
parents
are in
danger
of starting a vicious cycle: when their
children
become
parents
themselves, they
also
become tyrants.
In conclusion
, it is not easy to
get
along with one’s
parents
or
children
. It is unwise to be overprotective or overindulging. As with most things, moderation seems the best policy. Any high-handed approach is likely to breed another generation of tyrannical
parents
.