Peer Pressure. Vaccine for that? 15o èuwhfef

Have you ever been awkward about yourself when you saw plenty of great successes from other people, and you did not have it? Our modern world is increasingly populated by quasi-intelligent gizmos whose presence we bare notice but whose ubiquity has removed much human drudgery. Utilizing some social networks is just an indispensable part of their life, they can spend the bulk of their time on these apps. And when you were suffering the Internet, you would bump into a big accomplishment of others. Then you were beginning to wonder why they can do that? Why I cannot be like them? The comparison between yourself and others will be appeared. This phenomenon is called “PEER PRESSURE. ” The ubiquitous of pressure by peers occurs during adolescence, as this is a time when they create the cognition of the feeling of belonging and have to direct in their behavior so that they can figure out an appropriate co-operation with members in a group. In addition, fathers and mothers are in a part contributing to our ability to be pressured by our peers. Such as disciplining children during playtime, or allowing him or her to do this or forbidding not to do that activity will often help alleviate the pressure on children to perform behaviors which their peers want them to do. In contrast, parent’s tendency manipulating children's minds, like making them feel guilty or apprehensive, treating them like babies or being overly protective, can lead to confusion and disorientation in their behaviors, and make them more susceptible to peer influence. The adult supervision would aggravate the ability to construe own needs lead to unable to make up one’s mind, so children have to be obligatory like other people do. Is it because we feel we are weaker than others originate from not being understand ourselves enough? Is it on account of self-understanding is not enough in relation to the hurt of the child inside us when we did not receive the freedom in our childhood? To adulthood, we also need to get an opportunity to get out of our comfort zone. And when they can do this, we could be accessible clearly the outstanding achievements of others, and then again, we will feel self-deprecation. We have just been got rid of the serious control of our parents, still cannot orient ourselves and fall into the trap of magnificence and gorgeous surroundings. More people whom we exceedingly admire always exist, with state-of-the-art technology, it brings them get closer with us. If they are far away, we just consider them like a good example to follow and strive for. Now, we are likely to see multiple accomplishments from our friends in the high school or another place and we cannot escape by comparison with that person. Facing with that acute comparison, oneself turn into negative, envious, and jealous. We push ourselves to subject to something, to prove that we can create achievement too. If it succeeds, it will be complacent, but when it fails, it is a series of days of self-torment. To be frank, I have been experienced the aforementioned problems. During the time I was born and raised, I was under the strict supervision of my parents. They did not give me the freedom to decide, they forced me to do this or that without asking whether I like doing it or not. When I was 16, I found myself cannot suffer this anymore, so I strongly resisted implementing the law they make. And at that time, they beat me a lot, they still have a thought that I was an immature child and needed to be raised. Until now, when I am about to turn 18, I am independent to make my own decisions and mentally prepared to take responsibility for whatever I do. After wasting my precious time on an unhealthy relationship, I got into learning about the IELTS certificate. Not long after that, I met a person who had an enormous influence on me, was my teacher. Even though I did not have a chance to meet him, just studied online but he had something impact on me, I could not describe it, it was hard to say. After finding out information about him, I knew that he was an international student in the US, got a high IELTS and SAT score, and achieved an 85% scholarship. I wanted to express: “OMG, WHAT IS THIS? YOU BELONG WITH ME. ” And now I am raising my dream to study in the US. I began to search about how to choose a school, the requirements that the school places on students, and so on. I also take an active part in many groups on Facebook about studying abroad and hunting for scholarships. There is a group that had left me with different emotions, which is the group called: ” Hunter Group. ” True to its name, this place is filled with fearsome predators. Everyone comes from many separate places, has many great profiles such as GPA 9. 5, IELTS 8. 0 8. 5, SAT 1400 1500, and countless outstanding extracurricular activities like being an ambassador for a certain community, founder of a club. Besides, there are also academic awards such as national first and second prizes specializing in certain fields. Look at me, I don’t have anything like that. But I differ from one person to another, I am still incredibly fortunate because I am not be affected by the terms of “Peer Pressure. ” What is the “Vaccine” to thoroughly tackle this issue? Personally, I always see the “perfect profile "of somebody as my motivation. When I get to see those things, the first thing I want to do is find a way how they can do that. Then from there, I can define my own path. I do not know about other people, but for me, I do not want to imitate someone, I do not want to be a copy. I have made a list of something I have to do after witnessing the resounding success of others. Finally, I have discovered that not only I want to study abroad in the US as this place has my beloved one but also I want to challenge myself to see how much better I could be. I do not want that when I am 80 years old, I will regret anything I did not do when I was younger, And I deeply understand that behind their massive successes is an entire process of trying. That process also takes sweat, tears as well as efforts to achieve there. Never look at the cup in someone else’s hand, just look at the price they must pay to be able to accomplish that cup. I want people to know that “Peer Pressure” is not harmful like the way they see it. I am a special individual, have my own experiences, have my own way to life, so why should I attach my life to other people’s lives, other people’s faces, or other people’s experiences? It is just like a lever, mental stimulation for us to pursue our passions and ambitions in the future. Society is born out of the competition to be better together. Do not think that showing their successes is bragging, but consider it your own motivation. Everyone has their own goals or desires; we cannot force ourselves to become like them. I have been so many people lacking tenacity while pursuing a goal solely because of momentary feelings. Let us set clear and specific goals for yourself, go your separate way. If you play it by ear, you deal with things as they happen, rather than following a plan or previous arrangement. The only person you need to overcome is yourself, not someone else. Ask yourself what your goals and ambitions are. Do not let others answer for you. “BEAUTY BEGINS THE MOMENT YOU DECIDE TO BE YOURSELF" - COCO CHANEL