Marriage is an important social institution. The question is that whether arranged or love marriage is better. Personally, I find the latter way of thinking more convincing.
First and foremost, security and stability seem to be the most valued things looked for in arranged marriage, while looking for a partner for their son or daughter, parents will first check whether they share the same background, socio-economic status, level of education, or not. Another concern to consider is the fact that sometimes the daughters or the sons feel a strong sense of obligation and duty to their parents. They are compelled to accept their parents’ choice of their spouses, to do otherwise is perceived to be disrespectful and a betrayal to the whole family.
Love marriage seems impeccable on the surface. F. Scott Peck once said: ‘Love is not effortless. It is effortful’; therefore, love marriage requires such achievement to sustain a happy life.
In the first place, the romantic feelings in the first few months will only stay for a short period. When the honeymoon stage is over and the mundane realities have set in, people begin to feel dissatisfied, wondering if their partner still loves them. More importantly, people have no clue to blame for anyone if their marriage does not work out perfectly, which means they have no choice but to take full responsibility for their decision. In contrast, one might enter an arranged marriage with much lower expectations and everything work out immediately.
In summary, both arranged and love marriages have their own strengths and faults. From my viewpoint, there is no perfect formula to make a marriage work, it's up to each person’s wish and opinion.
Marriage
is an
important
social institution. The question is that whether
arranged
or
love
marriage
is better.
Personally
, I find the latter way of thinking more convincing.
First
and foremost, security and stability seem to be the most valued things looked for in
arranged
marriage
, while looking for a partner for their son or daughter, parents will
first
check
whether they share the same background,
socio-economic
status, level of education, or not. Another concern to consider is the fact that
sometimes
the daughters or the sons feel a strong sense of obligation and duty to their parents. They
are compelled
to accept their parents’ choice of their spouses, to do
otherwise
is perceived
to be disrespectful and a betrayal to the whole family.
Love
marriage
seems impeccable on the surface. F. Scott Peck once said: ‘
Love
is not effortless. It is effortful’;
therefore
,
love
marriage
requires such achievement to sustain a happy life.
In the
first
place, the romantic feelings in the
first
few months will
only
stay for a short period. When the honeymoon stage is over and the mundane realities have set in,
people
begin
to feel dissatisfied, wondering if their partner
still
loves
them. More
importantly
,
people
have no clue to blame for anyone if their
marriage
does not work out
perfectly
, which means they have no choice
but
to take full responsibility for their decision.
In contrast
, one might enter an
arranged
marriage
with much lower expectations and everything work out immediately.
In summary, both
arranged
and
love
marriages
have their
own
strengths and faults. From my viewpoint, there is no perfect formula to
make
a
marriage
work, it's up to each person’s wish and opinion.