Marriage is an important social institution. There is a continuous debate whether arranged or love marriage is better. Personally, I find the latter way of thinking more convincing.
In today’s generation, arranged marriage does not hold much attraction for the young; however, it is obvious that 90% of Indians still maintain this type of wedding. This is not just the union of two people, but a coming together of two social networks, which are now closely linked than ever before.
First and foremost, security and stability seem to be the most valued things looked for in arranged marriage, while looking for a partner for their son or daughter, parents will first check if the potential bride or groom’s family is compatible with theirs. Whether they share the same background, socio-economic status, level of education, or not.
Another concern to consider is the fact that sometimes the daughters or the sons feel a strong sense of obligation and duty to their parents. They are compelled to accept their parents’ choice of their spouses, to do otherwise is perceived to be disrespectful and a betrayal to the whole family.
Love marriage seems impeccable on the surface. Get married to a soulmate, and live a happy life after. As F. Scott Peck says: ‘Love is not effortless. On the contrary, it is effortful’; therefore, like arranged one, a love marriage requires such achievement to sustain a happy life.
In the first place, the romantic feelings in the first few months will stay the same for the rest of the time they live together. When the honeymoon stage is over and the mundane realities of marriage have set in, people begin to feel dissatisfied wondering if their partner still loves them.
More importantly, people have no clue to blame for their parents or anyone else if their marriage does not work out perfectly, which means they have no choice but to take full responsibility for their decision. In contrast, one might enter an arranged marriage with much lower expectations and not expect everything to work out immediately.
In the light of the aforementioned analysis, both arranged and love marriages have their own strengths and faults. From my viewpoint, there is no perfect formula to make a marriage work, it's up to each person’s wish and opinion.
Marriage
is an
important
social institution. There is a continuous debate whether
arranged
or
love
marriage
is better.
Personally
, I find the latter way of thinking more convincing.
In
today
’s generation,
arranged
marriage
does not hold much attraction for the young;
however
, it is obvious that 90% of Indians
still
maintain this type of wedding. This is not
just
the union of two
people
,
but
a coming together of two social networks, which are
now
closely
linked than ever
before
.
First
and foremost, security and stability seem to be the most valued things looked for in
arranged
marriage
, while looking for a partner for their son or daughter,
parents
will
first
check
if the potential bride or groom’s family is compatible with theirs. Whether they share the same background,
socio-economic
status, level of education, or not.
Another concern to consider is the fact that
sometimes
the daughters or the sons feel a strong sense of obligation and duty to their
parents
. They
are compelled
to accept their
parents’
choice of their spouses, to do
otherwise
is perceived
to be disrespectful and a betrayal to the whole family.
Love
marriage
seems impeccable on the surface.
Get
married to a soulmate, and
live
a happy life after. As F. Scott Peck says: ‘
Love
is not effortless.
On the contrary
, it is effortful’;
therefore
, like
arranged
one, a
love
marriage
requires such achievement to sustain a happy life.
In the
first
place, the romantic feelings in the
first
few months will stay the same for the rest of the time they
live
together. When the honeymoon stage is over and the mundane realities of
marriage
have set in,
people
begin
to feel dissatisfied wondering if their partner
still
loves
them.
More
importantly
,
people
have no clue to blame for their
parents
or anyone else if their
marriage
does not work out
perfectly
, which means they have no choice
but
to take full responsibility for their decision.
In contrast
, one might enter an
arranged
marriage
with much lower expectations and not
expect
everything to work out immediately.
In the light of the aforementioned analysis, both
arranged
and
love
marriages
have their
own
strengths and faults. From my viewpoint, there is no perfect formula to
make
a
marriage
work, it's up to each person’s wish and opinion.