There are certain considerations or factors that everyone takes into account in a
relationship. People may look for honesty, altruism, understanding, loyalty, being
thoughtful etc! Everyone would more or less wish that the person s/he is dealing
with, has some of these virtues above. Putting them in an order according to their
importance, however can be very subjective and relative.
When someone asks him/herself the question "What do I consider to be the
most important thing in my relationship? " the answer depends on a lot of factors
such as how his/her earlier relationships were.
After stating that everyone's opinion can be different about this, for me honesty,
in other words, always telling the truth is the most important consideration
in a relationship. Opposite of this is inarguably lying and if someone needs to lie,
either s/he is hiding something or is afraid of telling me something.
In any relationship of mine, I would wish that first of all, the person I'm dealing
with is honest. Even though s/he thinks that s/he did something wrong that I
wouldn't like, s/he'd better tell me the truth and not lie about it. Later on if I find out
about a lie or hear the truth from someone else, that'd be much more unpleasant. In
that case how can I ever believe or trust that person again? How can I ever believe
that this person has enough confidence in me to forgive him/her and carry on with
the relationship from there. So if I cannot trust a person anymore, if the person
doesn't think I can handle the truth, there's no point to continuing that relationship.
Although I would like to see altruistic, understanding, thoughtful and loyal behavior from people, an instance of_ the opposite of these behaviors would not
upset me as much as dishonesty would. Among all the possible behaviors, dishonesty
is the only one for me that terminates how I feel about a person's reliability.
Therefore honesty would be my first concern and the most important consideration
in a relationship.
There are certain considerations or factors that everyone takes into account in a
relationship.
People
may look for honesty, altruism, understanding, loyalty, being
thoughtful etc! Everyone would more or less wish that the
person
s/he
is dealing
with, has
some
of these virtues above. Putting them in an order according to their
importance,
however
can be
very
subjective and relative.
When someone asks him/herself the question
"
What do I consider to be the
most
important
thing in my
relationship
?
"
the
answer depends on
a lot of
factors
such as how his/her earlier
relationships
were.
After stating that everyone's opinion can be
different
about this, for me honesty,
in other words
, always telling the
truth
is the most
important
consideration
in a
relationship
. Opposite of this is
inarguably
lying and if someone needs to lie,
either
s/he
is hiding something or is afraid of telling me something.
In any
relationship
of mine, I would wish that
first of all
, the
person
I'm dealing
with is honest.
Even though
s/he
thinks
that
s/he
did something
wrong
that I
wouldn't like, s/he'd better
tell
me the
truth
and not lie about it. Later on if I find out
about a lie or hear the
truth
from someone else, that'd be much more unpleasant. In
that case how can I ever believe or trust that
person
again? How can I ever believe
that this
person
has
enough
confidence in me to forgive him/her and carry on with
the
relationship
from there.
So
if I cannot trust a
person
anymore, if the person
doesn't
think
I can handle the
truth
, there's no point to continuing that relationship.
Although I would like to
see
altruistic, understanding, thoughtful and loyal behavior from
people
, an instance of_ the opposite of these behaviors would not
upset me as much as dishonesty would. Among all the possible behaviors, dishonesty
is the
only
one for me that terminates how I feel about a person's reliability.
Therefore
honesty would be my
first
concern and the most
important
consideration
in a
relationship
.